Thursday, August 06, 2009


Overheard at the supermarket:

"Dont ever go wandering off on your own or the bearded man will take you away."

Wonderful to see how easily prejudices are passed onto our children.


choxbox said...

what about the poilice van standing outside which will take you away if you don't eat?
or the doctor who will come and give you an injection if you don't do what you are being asked to?

SUR NOTES said...

choxbox: these are fears that happily scar the child for good.
the beard one upset me more because we have religious communities in the country where the beard is a norm- and the parent was happily projecting her own fear and suspicions!

by the way i am guilty of passing on my prejudices too- the child thinks the police exist only to lathi charge protestors!

SUR NOTES said...

...addition to the previous comment- to nullify this terribly prejudice you will often hear me say the impossible " no dear, they are also there to help us when we need them!" ...what we have to do to not pass on our prejudices!

Violet said...

Totally agree.. as a kid, I was terribly scared of ladies in burqa.

Kodi's Mom said...

*guilty of using lame threats like that*
I started off right. but somewhere along the lines, it became easier to just resort to age old threats than explain/plead/negotiate/analyze to earn a little cooperation. hmm, maybe if i stop today, the scars will heal quicker?

SUR NOTES said...

violet: its casual comments that can have a deep impact on a child.

kodi's mom: the threat i use is....get ready fast or then i will not send you toschool. we all are ready with the scars we know we can wipe away, i guess.

Mama - Mia said...

ouch! is all i can say. sad indeed!

Mukul said...

Yes, police, chowkidaar.. All

Bearded man in this case could occasionally mean Sanah's father as well!